There are several subtle, psychological tips, tricks and other relationship advice that have been developed over years of observation and clinical analysis. We’re all different beings for sure, each as unique as a snowflake, but there are basic or major formulas in all of our thought processes and emotions that are almost universal across the board. The tips you’ll be reading were formulated with these observations and common emotional reactions.
I have to start by reminding you (yet again I’m sure) that not all relationships are meant to be, and the ones that last a lifetime aren’t the rule but rather the exception. But after you weigh the pros and cons of trying to stay in the relationship, if you still feel that pursuing your Ex is the correct course of action then read on. These are proven and time-tested methods for winning back hearts through a subtle reframing of emotions. But before you sign on really do make sure you want your Ex back as these tips will all but certainly work in doing so. It is also of the utmost importance that you implement these tactics as soon as possible after the initial split has effectiveness has sometimes been affected by the longer the amount of time gone by.
● Let’s start with the basics. Your Ex may have not been staying in contact, whether it be not returning phone calls or texts, avoiding the Facebook chats or even un-friending you on Facebook. This is normal human behavior. Believe it or not, your Ex is going through the same emotional turbulence as you, it’s just that we all deal with it differently. Some time apart emotionally is important to help the scars heal. It doesn’t matter how long this period of readjustment takes but what’s more important is the quality of the split. In other words, a quality emotional split where communication is tremendously reduced can help your cause. Don’t be overbearing. No constant texts, desperate phone calls, or heartfelt emails. We’ll get to contacting them.
● You need to think long and hard are about what you’re going to say, not the exact words of course but the message and the feeling you want to convey as well as the way in which you want to communicate this first approach. You need to decide whether you’d like to send a short and brief email, contact them on the phone or conveniently run into them out and about (believe me, this can be arranged fairly easily). I would highly (highly) recommend a phone call. Often it’s preferable to call at a time when you’ll likely get the answering service, but you should also be prepared to talk to your Ex as they might just pick up.
● Your demeanor is essential throughout this initial contact. You don’t want to come across as distant but you also can’t seem desperate or vulnerable. It’s a tightrope that’s fairly easy to walk with a little advice. You remain emotionally cool throughout the conversation and most importantly don’t give into the urge to be argumentative. See if you can arrange a time to talk further, just a casual time set up for another phone call or perhaps a cup of coffee or some other face-to-face meet up. The links on this page offer many further insights into this exceptional how-to on winning back the love of your life. But don’t forget, if you’re going to do this then by all means do it now. The sooner you start the better your results. Get started NOW. Click below to take the free relationship quiz.