We’ve all heard pick up lines for girls. We’ve seen dudes use them in movies, we’ve heard our friends try them out in real life, and we’ve read some funny compilations on the Internet. Even though they’re funny, the crazy thing is that sometimes they actually work!
The truth is that using this approach can be funny and it can actually help you when you want to talk to a girl but don’t know what to say. No one wants to be that guy at the bar that is going up to every woman and laying down the same old game on them, only to be rejected and to stagger away. However, if you use them as a go-to, they can be a great ice breaker that will get her to laugh and give you a way to carry the conversation further.
The truth is that it can be pretty tough to meet women and start talking. There’s no real easy way to insert yourself into a conversation with someone you don’t know, and it gets even harder to do so when she’s really pretty. Since the awkwardness is inevitable, why not use a line to break the tension and let you both relax?
That is the magic of this approach: everyone knows that it’s a little cheesy and feels a little foolish when they’re using them, but that’s okay! If a girl likes you, she’s just going to laugh and make a comment about how silly you are, at which point you can agree and smoothly take the conversation from there.
So what should you do and what should you definitely avoid when it comes to using this approach in real life? We’ve assembled everything you need to know about the art of this technique. If you can embrace the philosophy of using this as an entrance maker and introduction technique instead of blindly falling into the trap of creepy delivery and praying for a good result, you’ll be just fine.
Tip Number One To Pick Up Women: Look Good
Even if you have a few decent examples memorized and in your arsenal, nothing can help you if you look like crap. You can’t do anything about the face and body you’re born with, but if you’re going out to the bar and you haven’t showered that day, you might as well stay home because you’re going to be heading back there alone anyway. Make sure that you’re showered, you’re fresh, you’ve been to the gym and you smell nice, because it’s going to mess things up if you don’t.
Have One Ready, Not Several
The trouble with picking a few examples and memorizing them is that by the time you actually arrive at the bar, they get all jumbled up in your head. Add on top of that a couple of drinks, and you’ve got a recipe for disaster. Just pick one and get it down so that when it comes down to it, you don’t freeze. Don’t worry, it’ll be enough.
Be Nice, Not Nervous
Keep in mind when you go up to talk to a girl that nerves will come up. It’s best just to try and go with the flow and not let any nerves get the better of you. Just focus on being nice and try not to get too nervous when you’re talking to a girl– although some girls will think it’s really cute that you got nervous if you do, so it can occasionally still work in your favor.
Gauge Her Response
When you see a pretty girl or woman in the bar that you would like to talk to, it’s time to go up and make your presence known. All that you have to do is go up and break the ice and then see how she reacts (it’s usually pretty unmistakable). She’s either going to go with it or totally hate it and want nothing to do with you. You’ll be able to tell whether everything’s cool and she wants to keep talking, or if it didn’t work and it’s time to walk away.
Ask Her About Herself
Once you have gotten a fairly positive response from a lady and the conversation is flowing, shift the focus onto her. Girls love to talk about themselves, but more importantly, asking her questions about herself is a good way to show her that you are a real person and enjoyable to be around. You can easily avoid being “that guy” by being a good conversationalist and showing interest in who she is as a person.
Guys need to be careful to be charming but too charming. Your ultimate goal is to be charming, but not smarmy, and engaging, but not overly enthusiastic, which could overwhelming. Just be yourself!
Don’t Take It Too Seriously
Guys, if you are using this technique as a magic wand that is going to somehow make a girl interested in you, you’re barking up the wrong tree. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. Don’t take this whole thing too seriously, because it’s a way to start a conversation– not a magic potion.
Use New Ones
Here’s the thing: if you’re going to use this approach, it’s best to stay away from throwing out the same old ones everyone’s heard a million times. You want to impress her and at the very least start talking to her. Don’t go for the stale bread; try something fresh.
Buy the Girl a Drink
Do not forget the one very important part of the process: buying her a drink. The girl has to endure your cheesy attempt at talking to her– the least you could do is buy her a drink! If you roll up all smooth but don’t offer to buy her a drink, you’ll seem foolish AND cheap– a deadly combination.
Pick up lines are a great way to break the ice, but never rely on them alone or they will soon work against you. Use our tips and tricks to their full extent and you will have a very decent chance of obtaining a favorable result. Thanks for reading, and good luck!